Anxiety in relationships, parenthood, and identity

Some of the most disorienting therapy work isn't about a single event. It's about the

slow accumulation of "I don't recognize my life and I don't recognize myself in it".

This may be a marriage that's technically fine but lonely in a way you can't explain. or the parenting

you're doing well by every external measures but truly feels like you are acting. It could even be the

career you chose for reasons that made sense at the time but no longer feel right. 

The work I do here is the part of relational struggle that lives

inside you such as the patterns, reactions, the old habits running underneath the

present-day relationship. Some clients are doing couples therapy concurrently and

finding that the individual work makes the couples work possible. Some clients are

deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship and need a space that isn't shared with

their partner to think it through. Some clients are partnered well and the work is about

who they're becoming inside that partnership.

Often there's trauma underneath, but not always. Sometimes it's family of origin patterns, attachment styles, or the downside of having always been the responsible child. Together, we will figure out what layers are needed to process. 

EMDR is sometimes part of this work, especially when there's a specific origin event or

pattern that keeps activating. Sometimes the work is mostly talk-therapy and we don't need EMDR at all. The modality follows the work, not the other way around.

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